Posted by D on January 20, 2007, 7:08 am, in reply to "Re: Constant Complaining"
I don't think I really stand a chance of putting down in a short post what it is I am tying to say but I will try.
For me, I look at what appears to be the negative type post and I watch my reactions. If such post upset my day it shows that my peace is dependent on things being in place or orderly. That is a fragile peace.
One goal may be to know ourselves well enough to be exposed to what we call negativity, to allow it to be expressed and looked at, to let it be what it is without it upsetting our peace.
I personally applaud those who honestly express what ever it is they are feeling at the time. Most people (including myself) prefer to be around people who make their day better, who help to boost their spirit. We tend to avoid those people and situations that challenge us and brand them with one of many socially accepted labels. We say they are negative, unpleasant and the latest and greatest label being "they have anger issues".
I am not saying that we have to socialize with such personalities but it may behoove us to be aware that their expression of their feeling may be a path to correction or a way to work through something. It may be just a phase they are going through, they may be depressed, hurt. Perhaps someone close to them died and their complaining about non related situations is a way of handling their emotions. Or they may be trying to get attention. There are many many possibilities here.
Isn't one option to simply let them be what they are, no matter what that may be. To let that be that and us be us? We don't have to buy into it, avoid it or even try to change it. But if we want to be consistently happy we do have to understand it and ourselves.
Adios for now,
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